Thursday, 7 April 2011

Gutted

Is how I feel. I feel like a balloon that was blown up to the max, so much that it kinda hurt, and now someone’s burst me with a prick, a very sharp needle it was too. I feel deflated. My hopes have been thrown in the air, and scattered around. I’ve just got to move on and well, it’s not easy. I got a little emotionally attached.

A bit of background perhaps? Well, here it goes.

A few weeks ago, we decided to put our house hunting hats back on. They’d had a few (very) brief spells on over the last two years, but every time I was put at risk of redundancy. Not the best time to get involved with the banks. But recently, things have been going alright, and we thought why not, why pay someone else’s mortgage off when we could start paying off our own?

And so the search began. Proper full on too. We’d be visiting houses left right and centre, several at the weekends, occasionally after work too during the week. It’s fair to say, there’s a lot of shit out there, and overpriced too. So when we found this little cottage last weekend, we both felt the same way. I’ll spare you the details of how cute it is, how lovely it would have been, because it’s not going to happen. As Boyfriend’s mother would say, it just wasn’t meant to be. The vendor rejected our (second) offer. If I’m completely honest, I think she’s being greedy. Well actually, if I’m completely honest, I think she’s a heartless bitch and I think she should have sold her house to us. But yeah, I didn’t tell the estate agent that. I was very well behaved. I think I might even have said “the search carries on”. What am I, looking for the next apprentice or something?!

Anyway, so there we go. That’s why I didn’t post yesterday. I didn’t want to mention it, I didn’t want to jinx it. I was hoping I might have some good news to share with you today. But fat chance of that happening any time soon. Everything is so expensive in this part of the world, and low interest rates aren’t doing our meagre savings any good. Boo.

Rant over.

15 comments:

PinkCatJo said...

Sorry to hear that. You must be disappointed. I know words mean so little at a time like this but I'm sure something bigger and better is just around the corner....it'll be a cottage with a white picket fence and roses round the door! x

mooncalf said...

House hunting and job hunting are some of the most horrible things in the whole world.

There again, although I have no wish to raise your hopes, the vendor might be feeling very differently about your offer in 6 months time...

Fingers crossed for you!

Diane said...

I know that you might not want to hear this but you will end up with the house you are meant to have. When my ex hubby and I were looking for our first house, we fell in love with a gorgeous one that we thought we were in with a great chance with. Long story short - an unscupulous estate agent was tring to pull a fast one, I uncovered the plot, estate agent ended up in prison!!!, we didnt end up with the house. But the one we did get eventually was so much lovelier. Hang in there - its a minefield. xxx

The Girl said...

Oh no, well gutting. But from what I've heard about house hunting (and selling for that matter) you have to develop a pretty thick skin because there can be an awful lot of kissing frogs before you find your Prince (or a better housing-related analogy).

Lucy said...

Aww I'm sorry to hear that. I can sort of sympathise, looking for a place just to RENT, with pets, is really hard because landlords just won't even consider you, never mind that you're the perfect tenant, it's hard to get your hopes up only to have them dashed.


But this is not the only house you will love, there will be others. It's so hard at the moment - house prices are meant to be falling so buyers don't want to pay the asking price, but sellers are quite probably in negative equity and don't want to sell their house at a loss. Hang in there, keep saving, something wonderful will come along and you won't know what all the fuss was about over this one!

PS look at that - the word verification is 'gethope' - it's a sign!!

Rachel said...

Oh, I'm sorry to hear that, it's such a shame but, as everyone says, the right house will be out there waiting for you. I hope you don't have to wait too long to find it.
R x

jociegal said...

Uhm - you don't even know how much I can relate to you right now. We just lost a house yesterday and I actually just posted about it today. SUCH an emotional roller coaster!!!! I am so sorry. I keep trying to tell myself that the right one is still out there....but bloody hell - I want the right one NOW!

skybluepinkish said...

It's been said already, but I'll say it again :) There will be a house that is just perfect for you and that one wasn't it. It probably not only had rising damp but sinking damp too! House hunting is a dispiriting business and you do have to have a thick skin and an ability to play hard core poker. But hold on, your house is just waiting for you to find it.

Heather said...

I'm so sorry to hear that :( It's absolutely gutting. Horrible horrible. I sobbed all afternoon at work in front of everyone when it happened to me.
:( xxxxx

Ali said...

It's so hard - we have our own share of b*st*rd house vendor stories. But actually, now I look back on it, we escaped what might have been a horrible mistake in the long term (even though it was the house of my dreams then). It'll happen - you are in such a strong position being in rented accommodation, someone will take tour arm off for an offer.

Me said...

Ahhh :( It feels awful I know. Hang on in there... xxx

Deb Legg said...

Oh, honey, don't fret. Heartless Bitches, be damned.
It'll happen for you. It took us years to finally complete buying our house. I didn't think we'd ever really do it. Once it all started to happen it was dizzy fast. After that it was all Cake and Ice Cream.

I'm having a cup of tea in your honor. You have one, too.

The Curious Cat said...

Oh dear....so sorry to hear you are feeling so fed up and down! What was the lady's problem? I guess she wanted more money right? Tis a shame and it is rotten but hopefully there is something else out there for you. Just keep your chin up and things will all work out for the best in the end! xxx

Maria♥ said...

Sorry to hear about your disappointment but don't become despondent, you will find your perfect house!

Maria
x

Pati from London said...

So sorry to hear that, but I believe that things happen for a reason and a better house might be round the corner for you. If the vendor wasn't nice you may have had to confront her later on in the process and this would have hurt even more... When we purchased our first house 8 years ago or so, we put an offer on a flat that was inside a converted neo-gothic church, it was really lovely,fairy taley with fantastic architectural features.. and seemed very cozy. Three months into the process we found loads of problems with its lease and we had to call it a day. It was really disappointing as we loved it and had invested time in the process. We had also seen 45 houses before that one and were fed up of investing time at weekends house hunting. A week later a new house came into the market, a lovely cottage that we ended up buying with a garden (in London!). It was so pretty and we felt so happy that the other purchase had fallen through. We lived very happily there for 6 years but by the time oursecond daughter was born we had to move house. I thought I was never going to find a better house than our lovely cute cottage but then we did find something bigger and better and now wouldn't go back there again. Life is full of surprises and there is no point in feeling sad for something that was never yours in the first place. You will find your lovely nest, just be patient. Good luck, Pati x