Good morning! Today, I'd like to ask you your opinion about something. Here's the story.
I'm an only child. I'm not sure if I conform to the stereotypical only child though, I don't think I'm a spoilt brat and I do share my toys (although find it a lot more difficult to do that with food - anyway). When I was growing up, I never had someone close yet slightly older to compare myself to. And I certainly didn't have anyone that I seriously envied, no one who was allowed to stay up longer than me and go out when I was told I was too young to do so. I never felt that anguish and jealousy some feel towards their older siblings. I thought I was missing out.
Obviously, it's not really my older sibling. But it feels like it at times. Boyfriend has an older sister, and in a way, I'm developing some 'older sibling feelings'. I'm afraid to say, not in the "looking up to her" way though. More in the "why is it that you have everything I want" way. This basically comes down to her having a lot more money than us (and more than we could ever hope to earn), being a lot slimmer than us, and achieving things we'd love to do, if only we had more money and better physical abilities.
Her and her husband seem to do everything by the book, living together for a while, buying a house together, getting married bla bla bla. Do you sense jealousy? I'm afraid you do. I'm not proud of it, but that's the situation I find myself in. We will never have the same financial facilities as them, and sometimes it kills me. Even though no one compares us to them, we can't help but do exactly that. Whatever you do, you find someone else has done it before you and you can't help but compare your dismal self to "the other".
This is all new to me, and I'd love to hear from you if you have older siblings and have been going through a similar thing for your whole life, or like me, have an "adopted" older sibling who's making you feel inadequate at times. Because it's only human to compare yourself to others, we all do it. We all know there are people much better off, but we also know there are people a lot worse off. Only when you have the "better off" category thrust in your face, it's a little more difficult to deal with it and stay content with your own predicament.